"A pale moon is rising and it seems like all is dying and would leave the world to mourn."

[nausicaa83]

Remember how I was complaining this was going to be a tough week? It definitely was, and more. Yesterday I went to City Hall to replace my ID card and my mom's. Mine took five minutes, but as I feared mom's is incredibly hard to do. As it turns out, I have to take two pictures of her (comatose in a hospital bed), bring them to City Hall, then they'll send two inspectors to the hospital to check if she's in fact alive, and then I'll have her ID card. With one of those pictures on it.

The woman there was really kind and supportive, and told me they have to do this kind of procedure often, what with old people with mental illnesses, and she gave me all infos on how to do it. But as you can imagine, it was brutal. Just in case I haven't said it before, here in Italy we don't have anything like a living will, so even if mom (who, by the way, was a doctor) always said she would have never wanted to be in this situation, we're legally forced to keep her alive. And now, to add insult to injury, this. Taking pictures of her in that state.

I took a long walk back home, as walking always helps me calm down, and I talked with my aunt on the phone, who promised me she'll help me with the rest. And then I had to fight nausea and the urge to crawl into a fetal position under my bed and stay there for the rest of the day. Today I feel better, and the sun has come out after two weeks of rain and flooding, so at least there's that.

Comments

[silviarambles]

Confesso che questa era una cosa a cui, tra le tante sulla questione, non avevo mai pensato. Hai ragione, e' aggiungere al danno la beffa. Non e' molto di aiuto, ma ti mando un abbraccio.

[nausicaa83.livejournal.com]

A quanto pare un documento firmato dal medico di mamma e le carte che mi identificano come suo tutore legale non bastano. Lo sapevo io che sarebbe stato un calvario. =_=

[tati81.livejournal.com]

E' questa la cosa che mi fa' più incazzare che con tutta la documentazione, debbano pure loro andare ad accertarsene...assurdo...

[nausicaa83.livejournal.com]

E' logico pensare che io possa mentire, ma il primario del reparto e il giudice tutelare cosa sono, miei complici? Ma per favore!

[tati81.livejournal.com]

Beh, quando viene tua zia avvisami che vengo anch'io, in ospedale, e poi in anagrafe.

[nausicaa83.livejournal.com]

Grazie tesoro!!! ♥

[enchanter.livejournal.com]

Oh. :( This is actually quite heartless (then again, the system usually is), both in terms of the ID and the lack of option to cease the life support if the person would have wished it. I'm really sorry you have to deal with all of this. I wish I could help somehow! You're in my thoughts. ♥ *big hug*

[nausicaa83.livejournal.com]

We're THE Catholic country, there's no respect for how people wish to treat their own bodies. Considering it's a religion with a concept of heaven, it's weird that they're so fixated on keeping everyone and everything alive, even long after anything that made them human is gone. I'll never understand it.

[space-oddity-75.livejournal.com]

Non ho parole. Certe volte la burocrazia italiana arriva davvero a dei livelli indecenti! Mi dispiace che tu abbia dovuto subire tutto questo, e spero che qualcuno vicino a te ti possa dare una mano a sbrigare questa pratica. Non è giusto che lo faccia tu, che sei così emotivamente coinvolta. Ti abbraccio fortissimo.

[nausicaa83.livejournal.com]

Quello che non capisco è l'obbligo della foto. Una volta che degli impiegati del Comune accertano che è in vita, non dovrebbe bastare quello?

[harriet-yuuko.livejournal.com]

Mi dispiace davvero tanto, e trovo veramente orribile e assurdo che la burocrazia possa imporre una cosa del genere a una persona. Davvero. La trovo una cosa disumana.
Ti mando un abbraccio grande.

[nausicaa83.livejournal.com]

Grazie! ♥

[florealpolla.livejournal.com]

Cara... un abbraccione forte forte!

Non ho parole per descrivere la cosa :(

[nausicaa83.livejournal.com]

Trovo ancora difficile crederci. =_=

[stardust-made.livejournal.com]

I am sending so many hugs your way. I struggle, really struggle to understand a world, in which bureaucracy has such vile priority over incredibly sensitive matters. I'm glad you're feeling better today and I just hope you go back to that wide, safe place you've created in yourself and live in the sun.♥

[nausicaa83.livejournal.com]

Thank you! ♥

They say all this red tape is there to protect the patient, but all I can see is them stripping disabled people of what dignity they have left.

[fioredelmale.livejournal.com]

All the hugs are being sent your way. What crude and tactless way to handle such a delicate situation...

[nausicaa83.livejournal.com]

Considerato che mi ero presentata con carte firmate da primari e giudici, non riesco a capire perchè non siano bastate. =_=

[fioredelmale.livejournal.com]

L'Italia è campionessa olimpica di "complicazione affari semplici"...

[tsuki-yagami.livejournal.com]

Che schifo la nostra amata burocrazia.. giusto per aggiungere sofferenza ad altra sofferenza. Ti abbraccio forte forte <3

[nausicaa83.livejournal.com]

Gli abbracci ci vogliono proprio! ♥ Grazie!